working split (for the hams here)

Have you thought about checking this club out?

https://shywyarc.net/wp/

Thats the club it’s full of non welcoming individuals that make it seem like you are not good enough for them 

Dont know how to explain it, you are welcomed and then when you dont know anything its like you are no longer welcome a

My Elmer was welcoming and a teacher but he is not able to participate any longer

That's a shame. Sometimes folks will think you're not willing to learn on your own and expect them to to provide all the answers for you. I doubt that's your attitude. I've never joined a club but got to know a bunch on my local repeater group. They've all been welcoming.